EBOOK READ Honey I Wrecked the Kids When Yelling Screaming Threats Bribes Time outs Sticker Charts and Removing Privileges All Don't Work Author Alyson Schafer

Mediterranean Rescue hI picked up this book despite it s cutesy title whichad me expecting a different type of book Instead I was pleasantly surprised an impressed with what the book had me expecting a different type of book Instead I was pleasantly surprised an impressed with what the book The language while light was much less dumbed down than some other parenting books I ve seen and the book is concise without much filler or repetitionTh author Alyson Shafer is a psychotherapist of the Alfred Adler school of psychology and in the book uses an Adlerian approach to solving the impasses that we run into raising our childrenI like the parenting philosophy in the book mutual respect rather than an autocracy avoiding reward and punishment but allowing the child s choices and actions to consistently result in physical or logical conseuencesThe book covers four escalating levels of problems a child might manifest neediness control revenge and eventually giving up and shows ways to elp resolve the causes for these symptoms It also very elpfully shows common mistakes that parents make when trying to deal with these issues even while following the book s approachThe book The Body Remembers Casebook has made me reevaluateow I relate to my children and others and Perfect Chance has provided me we a set of tools to reach to when I may feel like I m at my wit s end Iaven t read a lot of parenting books but the ones I ve read were only meh until this book This is the first one where everything I The Undoing of a Lady (The Brides of Fortune have been experiencing with my daughter is what the author is talking about in the book And in a really concise to the point way The other books talk about understanding your child to showing the right kind of love I know all that I want to knowow to handle these specific behaviors that are causing grief in my family The author does this in a great way A these specific behaviors that are causing grief in my family The author does this in a great way A of it is common sense but it was put in to a way that I was thinking There were many things that I am looking forward to implementing and I will now need to go back and reread the specific parts I wasn t keen on th Really good parenting book Usually in those types of books there is lots and lots of words before you get to the actually useful information that is around a chapter long but Mended Hearts (Men of Allegany County, here I was pleasantly surprised from start till end Lots of useful examples suggestions and explanations that actually make sense I ve intentionally prolonged the time for reading it so Iave the opportunity to test a little from each section and I was Ride a Painted Pony hones Must read for parents This bookelps reduce the stresses of parenting Ah parenting books I think these are The Hart Brothers hard to rate and review Mostly because as with everything in parenting youave to find what works for your family That being said I liked this book Alyson Schafer lays out er democratic parenting style in which parents release tasks And Freedoms To Their freedoms to their with the expectation that children will andle them with responsibility As soon as children do not manage their lives with responsibility parents step in and The Black Sheep Sheik help Families are encouraged to use family meetings to create limits rules and routines that work for them The idea behind all this being that by including your children in family decisions and limit setting they willave buy in and be likely to follow the rules and respect the Some good tips but difficult to execute If you ave one child and infinite amounts of time it would be perfect But after a day and I don t agree completely with the author s philosophy I think she overestimates ow rational children often are with some of Rufus Drake (Dangerous Dukes, her suggestions but overall still a good read Not all new information but lots of practical ideas useful even if other discipline methods are working ok This seems to be the perfect middle ground between mainstreamreality parenting and idealised tribalattachment I say attachment because within that philosophy is the radical idea that children are people too deserving of respect yetow to we parent within that unde. More life saving parenting advice from the bestselling author of Breaking the Good Mom Myth Bringing ,


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Honey I Wrecked the Kids When Yelling Screaming Threats Bribes Time outs Sticker Charts and Removing Privileges All Don't WorkIn the form of real connection 3 Avoid the traps that parents typically fall into stonewalling random reinforcement and others The parenting tools you will learn are 1 The delicate art of ignoring 2 All action no talk 3 Distraction 4 Redirection 5 Natural conseuences 6 Logical conseuences 7 Training for independenceAnd the tools for the longer term solution 1 Be present and leave space for independent entertainment 2 Catch em being good 3 Build the relationship connection in the deep and rich way the child seeks Of course there are a few situations when using natural conseuences is not advisable 1 When the conseuence is too severe 2 WHEN THE CONSEUENCE IS TOO FAR IN THE FUTURE the conseuence is too far in the future When too many others are impacted To ensure that a logical conseuence isn t punitive the conseuence must meet two criteria It must be related to the behavior ence the name logical and it must be revealed to the child in advance DROP THE ROPE MODEL FOR GETTING OUT OF POWER STRUGGLES D Determine you are in a power struggle R Re assess the situation objectively O Offer an olive branch P Plow on positively 1 If you don t ave something nice to say say nothing at all 2 Ask instead of telling 3 Acknowledge that you can t force and as for a favor Instead 4 Describe What 4 Describe what see 5 Say it in a word 6 Lighten up If you re power struggling you re olding on to choice options that your children are ready to make for themselves A whenthen statement both empowers the child and states the routine as boss LOGICAL CONSEUENCES are NOT a good tool for power struggles They always come off wrong It s too easy to look Powerful When Enacting A Logical when enacting a logical and besides there are better tools When the child s goal is revenge our parenting job is to Duty Bound (Bound and Tied, help theurting child eal You are only getting in the way of your own goal when you punish The difficulty is that they often behave in ways that make it arder to want to act in loving and kind ways toward them Fighting is co created and co operative behavior FIVE WAYS TO RESPOND TO SIBLING CONFLICT AND PREVENT HURT 1 Ignore the Fighting 2 Put Them in the Same Boat 3 Put It on the Agenda 4 The Two Arm Techniue 5 Bugs and Wishes The Two Arm Techniue Gently Make Me Yours (Harlequin Blaze, holding one child in each arm so they are facing each other Mom clearly centered and not siding with one or the other Mom can say Dina do you need to speak up Do you need to say something to your sister She is a very good listener Momas not only empowered Dina to speak but she Who Is Emerald Monday? (Return to East Texas has also let Carla know she is not in the bad books and so sheas no reason to be defensive Embrace mistakes as opportunities to learn and you encourage growth and persistence that will lead to mastery For many of us who were raised on praise we think it s the best thing to give to a child since we yearned for it ourselves We re projecting and regurgitating the tapes in our Fatal Inheritance head Encouragement emphasizes the process rather than the final product so that all ages all abilities and all ualities are valued Giving your best is what is important andonored Being the best is not Phrases that Demonstrate Acceptance I like the way you Lone Star Protector (Texas K-9 Unit handled that You did a great job tackling that problem I m glad you enjoy learning I am glad you are pleased with it Since you are not satisfied what do you think you can do so that you will be pleased with it It looks as if you enjoyed that How do you feel about it Phrases that Show Confidence Knowing you I m sure you ll do fine You ll make it Iave confidence in your judgment That s a rough one but I am sure you ll work it out While people do not Sheikhs Pregnant Cinderella (Bound to the Desert King, have to attend family meetings they doave to live by the decisions made by those who did participate Family meeting agenda 1 Appreciationsencouragement 2 Follow up old business 3 New business 4 Planningschedulingsyncing calendars 5 Distribute allowances 6 Weekly chore sign up 7 Closingfu. Ler TV ost and psychotherapist Alyson Schafer again comes to the rescue of desperate parents everywhe. ,

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Rstanding and not be overrun by tyrannical children This book shows ow to do that fairly and without sacrificing mainstream lifestyles nor running into the jungle and ditching mainstream altogether I loved it it was exactly what I needed as my first child is placid and easy but my second my son was a Her Baby, His Proposal huge challenge for me I found I needed something concrete than the attachment philosophy was giving me This book guided me to remain gentle and open yet not feel I was losing control Highly recommended Pretty easy read for a parenting book not as dry as some I found some veryelpful insights and suggestions Body Heat (Dept 6 Hired Guns, here but taken all together it felt a bit overwhelming In Honey I Wrecked the Kids Alyson Schafer argues for raising cooperative children rather than obedient ones by shifting from a punishment and reward model of parenting to a democratic model that is brimming with respect She explains that a child who doesn t feel connected capable counted and courageous will feel discouragement and misbehavior is always the result of feeling discouraged In other words Schafer urges parents to see that misbehavior comes from an unmet need and to focus on meeting that need rather than dominating or manipulating children into compliance Schafer s advice forow to encourage a discouraged child differs based on the situation She describes four separate dances attention power revenge and avoidance and describes Camouflage Cowboy (Daddy Corps, how each stage is an escalation of the last eg a child seeking undue attention if not properly addressed will escalate into one with whom a parent struggles for powerSchafer offers up very specific tips and suggestions for implementing this touchy feely parenting approach The only problem is thater entire playbook depends upon a parent firing on all cylinders When I m rested and ave Reviewed My Notes I Can Make Many my notes I can make many er suggestions work to great effect Unfortunately I often Forgotten Vows haven tad time to sleep or reread er strategies When it comes to eliciting behavioral improvement a simpler approach like those in The Happiest Toddler on the Block and Say What You See affects greater change Schafer s writing though often trying uite ard to be accessible simply doesn t flow easily though I noted something interesting on each page that uite Mood Swing hard to be accessible simply doesn t flow easily though I noted something interesting on each page that it worth reading the whole process felt a bit like a slogI nonetheless recommend reading Honey I Wrecked the Kids and keeping it on the shelf for two reasons 1 someday we willave the wherewithal to recall and calmly implement these excellent strategies and 2 random tricks will stick with you even if making the entire system work feels like a stretch at the moment eg I easily incorporated the whenthen statement Here are a few uotes that demonstrate Schafer s style The key message ere is to be in an active caring respectful relationship with someone who gets you accepts you and revels in the marvel that is you A child seeking undue
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will seek any behavior that gets their parents to stop what they re doing and pay attention to them Some kids will do this by being silly they will jump around in some crazy dance Some children decide to take on a persona as in I am not Marcie I am a cat Perhaps your kids feign elpless in order to Wrongly Accused Down to the Wire have you care for them Other children will want you to feel worried so they will bang theireads or make themselves fearful Attention seeking kids will also discover ways to be a general nuisance and pest They might whine spill or blow bubbles in their milk They might complain of feeling sick in non specific ways or be dramatic when they get a small scratch They may try to impress you with feats at the park Perhaps they talk too uietly or too uickly yammering in a non stop streak so fast you can ardly catch what they are saying 1 Do not give undue attention when your child is demanding it from you 2 Give your child attention. He same perceptive and actionable advice that made Breaking the Good Mom Myth an international bestsel. .


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