(What Mothers Do Especially When It Looks Like Nothing) PDF DOWNLOAD ✓ Naomi Stadlen
His L.A. Cinderella uOthers who attend the groups are regularlyoted throughout the book This means the book feels a bit like being a fly on the wall at one "Of Their Meetings Which "their meetings which really helpful when many new mothers don t have opportunities to talk about their experience with other mothers I m sure that any parent of a young baby will be able to relate to at I m sure that any parent of a young baby will be able to relate to at some of the mothers whose words are included in the book One of the most powerful bits of the book for me was about the language sed to describe mothering The author describes the
way a mother might notice something seems wrong with her baby and spend a mother might notice something seems wrong with her baby and spend carefully considering what might be wrong But then she mentions her concerns to someone else and all too often they reply that she must stop worrying so much as if she has been stupid to waste her time thinking about the concern Because we don t have a word to describe the kind of careful intelligent concern a mother feels towards to her baby the word worry is sed which implies that her concern is pointless or The Baby They Both Loved unnecessary This can leave her feeling belittled or embarrassed instead of feeling proud that she has taken such care over something that she notices affects her baby This isn t a typical parenting book that tells you what you should be doing or offers solutions to problems It s about reassuring new mothers that no matter how tired or overwhelmed or out of your depth you re feeling firstly you re not alone And secondly you re doing a valuable and important job even when you get to the end of the day and feel like you ve done nothing I d recommend this book to anyone who has a new baby or just wants to betternderstand the experience of becoming a parent I liked this a lot There is the mothering is the most important work platitude and then there is the you should really be Twin Temptation (Harlequin Blaze using your degreeyou are just a SAHMyou must not be a feminist that you get from people And sometimes you get them from the same person It could give one whiplash This book is a great way to center yourself and realize what you are doing that it is transient and necessary and that it has value beyond the platitudes This book is slanted toward the Attachment Parenting spectrum but is very careful to not insult mothers with other parenting techniues I can see it possiblypsetting a mother who has to work outside the home but who doesn t want to particularly as it is written from a UK perspective and assumes a full year of maternity leave I think it is well done but I wouldn t want it to sideswipe someone who is already An Inconvenient Affair (The Alpha Brotherhood, upset about that I didn t learn a lot from this book I m in the trenches so I get it Props to the author for spelling it out for those who think parenting means watching soaps and eating bon bons while Jr playsietly in the background Here s a summary of a day in the life read this and save yourself from reading the bookIt begins with the sacrifice of your body The little miracle grows inside of you swelling your boobs butt and belly to epic proportions Some jerk will ask if you are expecting twins you aren t and you smile and say Triplets actually or I m not pregnant I just like beer Then the birthing comes Beautiful my ass You push out turds you yell you sweat The pain is gone the minute you place eyes onto this child slimy wrinkled creature alien and beautiful Adoptive parents you suffer thru your own labor worrying about paperwork and biological parents The first six months are hell Granted there is magic in those little feet and hands and watching that baby develop but it s tough You are exhausted due to baby sleeping patterns If you breast feed you are like a cow at the county fair Step Right UP See the amazing milk machine Your boobs out all the time for the little lamprey said with affection in case one misses my sarcasm oh diapers As soon as you change it your senses are attacked hmm I smell poop AGAIN I hear a rumble AHHHH He grows and gets mobile you worry about him jamming forks into electric outlets putting god awful things into his mouth and knocking over furniture onto himself It takes you an hour to walk around the block as you are explaining drains sewers and fire hydrants then you play in the sandbox making castles and roads you make snacks CONSTAN. Her mothers of a wide variety of ages and backgrounds She explores mothers' experienc. .
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and milk make an amazingly tough paste Then you try to keep him occupied whilemilk make an amazingly tough paste Then you try to keep him occupied while clean and make dinner only to find he s figured out how to open the shampoo bottle how did he get to that and poured the contents onto the floor rubbing his hands and feet in the slippery mess in a bizarre form of toddler art As you clean that you see an old sippy cup nder the couch so old whatever liuid was in it has become solid At this point there has been a diaper blow out aka shit explosion potty training has not been too successful yet although your little angel has figured out how to flush the toilet regrettably he sed your watch as a substitute for his turds so you get that cleaned A Kiss Too Late up and smell something burning Damn Dinner You race to the kitchen to find your toddler has figured out how to pull a chair to the desk and open a pen artistic genius scribbled on papers for work bills himself and if you are not so lucky the floorwalls You give the sweetie a bath and it dawns on you you ve missed your shower this morning because he peed thru his pj s and you were changing and washing bedding you dress the child for the 12th time that day when the Jehovah s witnesses come to the door They see the child and ask do you work or stay at home You dismember the bodies in the basement andietly bury them beneath the swing set that night I won t go into the after school running around for last minute science projects and sporting events musical instruments accidentally run over by the car teaching them how to ride a bike and throw a ball and repair a window calming a child after a fight with a friend or first heartbreak teaching them to drive and busting them sneaking out in the middle of the nightIt is a rich wonderful thing being a parent Who knew the heart could hold so much love If you are lucky someday you child will nderstand everything you have done and sincerely say thank youGo call your moms As a new mother this book saved my mental health in the early days of my baby s lifeIt is not a parenting guide or how to book The author doesn t ascribe to or recommend any philosophy of parenting This book very elegantly describes the shock and frustrating experiences of mothers and delineates through snippets of interviews with mothers all the various types of work that mothers do 24 hours a dayHer definitions of a mother s work include learning about listening to her baby the ability to be constantly interruptable the socializing of her baby her worryI highly recommend this book to any new mother who is struggling with her transition into motherhood It will give even meaning to what you are doing as a
mother even if it feels like you are not ever getting anything done This bookeven if it feels like you are not ever getting anything done This book a beautiful job of allowing s to examine what it is mothers especially stay at home mothers do all day and than that to name and honor those things It can be very easy to feel like you re not getting anything done when in fact you are working hard all day at arguably the most important job there is Stadlen shows how the typical ways we measure success and efficiency and accomplishment cannot be applied to the work of the stay at home parent and offers other ways to nderstand what SAHMs do She has a lovely folkloric personal narrative approach that is appropriate to her thesis The book for the most part would apply to fathers too especially those who stay home with their babies as my husband did for a year My only criticism so far is that the book can get a little touchy feely I m ok you re ok but I suppose it s better to err on the side of gentleness when your audience is sleep deprived and hormone wired This was a good book to read piecemeal when I "was rocking Max It helped me reflect on my experience of motherhood and I liked "rocking Max It helped me reflect on my experience of motherhood and I liked at my current mindset from a larger cultural perspective What is it that mothers do It s hard to explain but there s a lot to it and mothers are not given enough credit I appreciated the way Stadlen explored the shifting of relationships and personal identity of new moms she helped me to see that all of the little things I do with Max are way important than any outwardly noticeable things I am getting done or at least trying to get done. Es to reveal what they and you are doing when it may look to everyone else like nothi.